Not every mom other there is in the same stage of life as you. There are teen moms, stay at home moms, working moms, mature moms, rich moms, poor moms, workout moms, 'lazy' moms, moms that got pregnant through rape, moms who got pregnant without even 'trying', moms who spent years on fertility treatments, moms who's only option was adoption, moms that only want one child, moms that want a dozen, moms of multiples, moms who had miscarriages, moms who lost a child... and the list goes on from there. What ever 'category/categorizes' you fall under the one thing in common is MOM! We are all moms. No matter how we got there, no matter the choices we make for our children.
Though being a woman, sometimes it is so easy to find yourself judging other moms or thinking 'I wouldn't do that' or 'how could you name your child that?' For the most part I find myself thinking 'to each their own. They are just doing their best.' Though every once in a while I find myself thinking 'what was that mom thinking?' And it is in that moment that I feel horrible and make myself feel even worse.
Moms we need to encourage one another and build each other up. Even if you don't agree with their decision. This is such a new time in everybody's lives. Its a very emotional roller coaster ride. As well no mother starts out as an expert, it takes time to learn how to do things. We don't always get things right on the first try. We all make mistakes, so lets all stand together.
You see a mom that clearly hasn't had a shower in a day or two and from the bags under her eyes clearly hasn't slept a full 8 hours that week (let alone last night), don't walk up to her and tell her "you really shouldn't let your daughter eat those prepackaged baby food. You should make your own like I do. It's so much healthier for your kid and there are no chemicals in it." Instead tell her she is doing a good job. At least she is making sure her kid is getting food.
We have all been there, whether we want to admit it or not, we have been that mother secretly wondering if other are judging us, or if we are even doing it right. As long as we try our best, that is really all we can do, because nobody is perfect, not even you, not even me. We all make mistakes, so instead of pointing fingers and jumping up and down, why not give her a hug and tell her it will be ok. Encourage her, and give her some advice in a nice way. Say "You know what helped me when I was in a similar situation? ...." Or "I don't know if this is the right way, but what worked for us is..."
